All your guilt and hate about your body will be replaced by pure confidence and grace. It is very important that you learn to live with your own body. The moment you think that another's body or another's dimensions are more attractive, you create a gap between yourself and your body. I have seen people who have photographs of male or female models in the walls of their rooms and do physical exercises to attain the body structure of the model. When you think that another's body is more beautiful, you create a distance between you and you. All these unconscious ways of looking at another's body creates undesirable side effects in your being. None of us deeply love our body. We carry it like a load that's all.

It is like a boarding and lodging concept to us. We are never inside our body because we hate it. We are everywhere else except in our bodies. We therefore have a continuous uneasiness in us and are ready to burst at any time. For example, if your driver does something minor, you explode effortlessly. At work, you are continuously in an irritable mood. Dont think the reasons for these lie with the people around you. People tell me, 'swamiji, all my workers are so inefficient and that is why I get irritated. Please understand that this is not the reason for your irritability. You are not at ease with your body and that is what causes the uneasiness and irritation in your system. It is a very subtle reason and that is why it is difficult to perceive it.

You continuously want to change your measurement or your dimensions. Understand that your body is a gift from God. Thinking that you are not enough unto yourself is the first damage you do to yourself. Question: Swamiji, your face appears to be changing every time to me. Is it my imagination or is it true? Understand that my being is liquid without any ego. I just flow with existence and whatever I express flows like liquid and you perceive it in my face. That is the reason why my face appears to be changing all the time! You will understand how an egoless state expresses, when we talk about the next chakra, the ajna chakra. Drop possessiveness Question: Swamiji, how do we get over possessiveness and jealousy? Yes, how do we get over it.

The fact that you have asked this question shows that you are ready for better understanding. Human beings can never be possessed. When you try to possess a person, you actually reduce him or her to an object. You make the person a dead thing. Only dead things can be possessed. Understand this very clearly, then you will be free from possessiveness and the jealousy that arises out of it. Just see every human being as a river that is flowing, and simply enjoy what he or she brings along. Can you try to possess a river? If you try to grasp the water in your hand, you will be doing a foolish thing, will you not? In the same way, dont try to possess people; just enjoy them for what they are and you will be free from the grips of jealousy.

You will then understand that possessiveness is something that is created out of your own deep, complicated mind to which you have given so much power. When you try to possess a person, it becomes difficult for that person also. You will start projecting all your ideas on him. He will have to act so as to gel with your projected ideas. He will feel caged. He becomes divided in his personality. He cannot be his natural self with you. And this cannot be called a relationship! If you really love a person, liberate him! Dont try to possess him; only then a real relationship can blossom; only then, a relationship not dependent on anything except deep love and trust can blossom. The moment you try to hang on to something, you have missed it.

Just love him with no strings attached.